Pinterest is apparently killing feminism or at least some believe it does.
Because millions of women around the globe flock to it to admire and aspire to dream lifestyles right down to perfectly toned, cellulite-free bodies, cute candle holders, exquisitely decorated cupcakes, kitchens, weddings, flower arrangements, frocks, and any other eye-candy you can possibly think of. It is like a giant, global scrap-book.
And that worries some people. Apparently it pushes women back into kitchens, sawing-rooms, and generally households. The very places long battle for escape from has been fought for by every suffragette known.
While I do not care much for Pinterest, occasional indulgence in colourful eye-candies does wonders for time-passing! Not to mention pure envy … what a dress, bum, décolletage, hair! Besides it never occurred to me that ever more colourful display of arts and crafts would make me less able to choose whether or not to go to work, vote, or generally participate in decisions making as much, (or as little) as I otherwise would.
And I say that because, as I recall, feminism was born out of rightful desire to ensure legal, educational, political and social equalities and opportunities for women. So women, just like men, can choose whether or not to marry, have children, stay at home as home-makers, work outside home only, or any combination of those.
Feminism insisted on women’s right to have choices. What choices women make ought to be entirely up to them. It was, and ought to remain, about opportunities and choices, not about ‘having it all’ or ‘female power only.’
Feminism is also about help, understanding and raising families together, as parents, but also as members of societies. Because nothing limits the women choices to work, or study outside home, if she chooses to, more than the absence of an adequate childcare.
Long-standing myth of a ‘super woman who can have it all and need no man’ drove many into despair. It also gave feminism undeservedly bad name, which might be why many of today’s young woman distance themselves from it.
Woman who chooses a demanding career and thrives in a competitive environment is no more feminist or lives in a more feminist world, than the one who has chosen home-making, loves decorating cakes, designing curtains and planning outlandish cocktail parties. The very fact that they both had the opportunity to freely make those choices, or any combination of them, demonstrates that they both live in a feminist world.
It is for that world that many remarkable women fought tirelessly for years. To enable every woman equal access to opportunities so that she can make her own decisions for life she wants. Not the life her ‘more feminist’, or ‘less feminist’ contemporaries approve off, but her own life. In a petticoat or a stripe suit, (or both; perhaps not in the same time -:)))!
Because being a feminist never excluded being a feminine, or having more rights and opportunities than men; it was and ought to remain about having equal rights and opportunities as men, and for that matter any human being! Personal abilities, aspirations and choices should remain the only criteria.
In conclusion, rather than worrying about whether or not display of domestic bliss on social media is killing feminism, it might be better to empower young women everywhere to feel comfortable with whatever choices they freely make. Irrespective of any popular trend.
- The faces of feminism (jeremystyron.com)
- Can feminism survive the next generation? (blogs.independent.co.uk)