Hardly a day goes by that trilogy ‘Shades’ are not at least mentioned if not discussed in details on some form of popular media; blogs, TV, website, shows … well if books were not already mega-popular they will be now. Banning them from libraries simply adds to the already huge hype.
I just read that British airline Virgin Atlantic is going to offer audiobook of the so-called ‘Mummies’ porn’ aka ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ on their planes. The company explained that they want to provide their female passengers with the opportunity to enjoy the book in private and without prying eyes!
And attract few more female passengers in the process. That of course is an airline business; to increase number of passengers by all means permissible and possible, including free access to popular entertainment. Especially free entertainment. Which makes me wonder about few things … like if so-called ‘mummies’ porn’ is offered as an audiobook, will ‘daddies porn’ follow? So there might be two people, (insert; passengers), sitting next to each other, ‘plugged in’ their respective ‘porn’ with eyes glazed and mouth slightly open?
Spurred by curiosity from endless talk about it, I read the first book of the trilogy few weeks ago and wrote about it. It left me occasionally entertained, frequently board, but constantly reminded how well the book has been packaged. It hit the target and delivered splendidly. One has to admire that irrespective of anything else.
There is no longer any doubt that easy to read prose spiced up with ‘naughty pleasure’ is what reaches hearts, (and wallets) of millions of people. And almost all of them females. While males, according to the popular media, are complaining about it all bitterly. On the grounds of some vague concept that sounds like ‘it is not fair’… after all it was us (males) who had unrestricted pleasure of indulging in porn since it was invented and now this? Instead of us (males) fantasising about turning our real-life partners into porn-stars, our partners are now fantasising about turning us into this guy Christian Grey, and guess what? We are coming short on all counts! So we do not like it. Just like girls did not like being compared to unrealistically portrayed porn-stars.
Book itself never set to spur such comparisons or contemplations. But the phenomenon that it created does prompt questions.
Questions such as; why millions of women love it so much? Is it because Christian Grey is that super-rich, super-handsome, super-sexy, etc. etc. all-in-one male superman? With just enough internal ‘demons’ added to his psyche to make him sufficiently vulnerable for an innocent and loving female heart to heal.
Sheer logic suggests that millions of women that read ‘Shades’ must be the same women that habitually expect from their real-life partners to do all the things modern men ought to do or be; take parental leave (if one is available) when kids are born, wax, have facials, successful careers, unreservedly support partners’ career, be understanding, helpful at all times … anything else? Oh yes of course, once they have finished with it all; it is time to turn into masterful lovers. Phew!
It seems that the only thing they can do is to turn around and fell asleep pretending not to notice copy of ‘Shades’ their partners are reading. The same partner who is also too exhausted to make any move. Because she has been running all day every day chasing after a fantasy of an all-in-one super woman; slim, trendy, with successful career, picture-book household, well-educated and behaved kids, and socially savvy … oh sorry yes, and a brilliant lover with an insatiable sexual appetite. Phew!
How has it come to that? Have we, modern men and women, really created a world in which fulfilment of our most basic needs depends on ready-made products fed to us via audiobooks, internet, etc.? Huge monetary success of all things porn, and/or erotic seems to suggest so. More explicit material is normally created for males, while softer versions, and super-soft versions known as erotic prose, targets female populous. There is nothing essentially wrong with that. After all porn or erotic materials in some form or the other have been available for centuries. Humans love to ‘peek’.
But what appears to be different this time is that such material does not mean to be adding to our love lives, but replacing them because we no longer have either time, energy, and/or resources required for real-life love lives.
We cannot ‘waste’ time on a slow, old-fashion romance that did not only serve as a ‘puritan tool of oppression’, but more so as a delicious tantalizer, so we invented ‘speed dating’, countless websites, txt and cybersex and alike.
But after, or despite all of it, millions of women and probably some men love a book where main character is a strong male, with a young, virgin girl in a supporting role. And they inevitably fell in love … all consuming, glorious, magical love! That overcomes all and heals all. Just like theirs, (and ours), grandparents did.
What do you think? Will the future humans visit some super-sophisticated cyber-spaces to indulge in cleverly designed, and probably interactive, sexual activities, or shall we simply start turning towards each other’s with all our imperfections?