A response to the open letter

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When I wrote an open letter to Jeff Goins, I notified him of that (see bottom of this post). And he responded to me. Below is that exchange as it occurred. It is self-explanatory. And it is published here in the interest of honesty and completeness.

My dear Jeff,

First of all thank you. It is surprising how much you wrote to me. It speaks volumes. Here are reasons and answers to your questions:

  1. I did not publish it to attract attention. That is obvious; attention of who? My following is very small. Moreover, I initially intend to post it in response to your tweet. Clearly that was not possible due to length.
  2. It is quite obvious that your sales pitch is well crafted. So you know very well what it is. And, as I said in my letter, there is nothing wrong with that. Nothing at all. What is, in my humble opinion, wrong is that it is flying in the face of what I thought are your core values. And flying hard.
  3. We are all making mistakes and learning. That is the only way to grow.
  4. You are most welcome to publish my letter, and all our conversation anywhere you want. And so am I. Once we decide to blog or tweet or anything of that nature; we become public persons. With all that entails. I publish on my blog whatever I choose, same as anyone else. And I take any ‘hits’ as they come. Where I come from we call it; ‘walk your talk’.
  5. It is my humble opinion that if I did not write an ‘open’ letter; you will not ‘hear’ me. It was a way to get across. To make my voice, as small and as insignificant as it is, heard above all the noise.
  6. I did not know until I read your response to my letter that you classify your followers as ‘strangers’. I thought those are the people you share your very essence with; your creativity. Once you are famous and leading ‘tribes’, you cease to become strictly private person. It is called ‘price of fame’. The rewards are tangible. This is why everyone is after it.
  7. The adage of ‘praise in public, criticize in private’ is a good one. Only one cannot criticise a stranger in private.
  8. What I found most surprising is that you poured so many words (energy) into accusing me of trying to attract attention. To the point that it seems attention attraction is your main, or even only concern. And who gets it. Rest assured you have no worries on that score from me. Because I have far less time left to attract any attention than you. Besides it has been a bumpy ride and I am tired.
  9. Of course I will continue to read your stuff. You are a good writer Jeff. That was the point of the open letter. Surprisingly you did not get it. So I have to explain.
  10. There is nothing to get through it. I will always keep Manifesto.
  11. Write Jeff … do not worry about attention. You already have it. Write brilliant literature that touches people. For all of us who did not get to do it.

Daniela

P.S. If I chose to publish this on my blog it will be to honour you, nothing else. If you think that I am either crazy or stalker of some sort; neither is the case. I will not bother you again. And I truly do wish you all the best.

From: Jeff Goins [mailto:jeff@goinswriter.com] Sent: Sunday, 8 July 2012 1:29 a.m. To: Daniela Subject: Re: An open letter

Ouch, Daniela.

Why not just write me the email directly? What was the point of publishing it—but to attract attention?

Moreover, I’m not sure what my “sales pitch” is. I just don’t want people to miss the free download.

I appreciate the honesty (btw, nobody works for me) and the concern. It’s always nice to hear how what I’m doing is affecting people. To be sure, I am still making mistakes and learning.

However, what makes this letter so hard to read is the fact that it was “open,” and in my opinion, unnecessarily so. Pardon my saying this, but it seems the same things you are accusing me of (writing for attention), you are guilty of yourself.

You’ll notice that I didn’t publish this on my blog or as a comment on yours. That’s because I believe feedback is best given one-on-one. Otherwise, it can feel like you’re ganging up on the person.

I subscribe to the “praise in public, criticize in private” adage. I believe it’s the most effective way to do these things.

I did read your whole letter and will think about it the next time I tweet or blog (seriously). I hope you’ll think about mine the next time you want to give feedback to a stranger on the Internet.

I also hope you’ll continue reading my stuff and that we can get through this.

Jeff

PS I love Tuesdays with Morrie.

On Jul 7, 2012, at 6:23 AM, “Daniela” <DanielaD@xtra.co.nz> wrote:

Hi Jeff,

I am not sure about the rules, but I feel that I ought to let you know personally that I have published an open letter I wrote to you on here:

https://lanternpost2012.wordpress.com/2012/07/07/an-open-letter-to-jeff-goins-of-httpgoinswriter-com/

Thank you,

Daniela

Author: Daniela

Reader, Writer, Mother, Freethinker, Habitual Day Dreamer, Blogger - Sharing Ideas, Poetry, Prose, and Conversations on the Lantern Post!

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