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Repining Feminism

Pinterest is apparently killing feminism or at least some believe it does.

Feminist pin buttons The Women's Museum, Dalla...

Feminist pin buttons The Women’s Museum, Dallas, Texas (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Because millions of women around the globe flock to it to admire and aspire to dream lifestyles right down to perfectly toned, cellulite-free bodies, cute candle holders, exquisitely decorated cupcakes, kitchens, weddings, flower arrangements, frocks, and any other eye-candy you can possibly think of. It is like a giant, global scrap-book.

And that worries some people. Apparently it pushes women back into kitchens, sawing-rooms, and generally households. The very places long battle for escape from has been fought for by every suffragette known.

 Really?

While I do not care much for Pinterest, occasional indulgence in colourful eye-candies does wonders for time-passing! Not to mention pure envy … what a dress, bum, décolletage, hair! Besides it never occurred to me that ever more colourful display of arts and crafts would make me less able to choose whether or not to go to work, vote, or generally participate in decisions making as much, (or as little) as I otherwise would.

And I say that because, as I recall, feminism was born out of rightful desire to ensure legal, educational, political and social equalities and opportunities for women. So women, just like men, can choose whether or not to marry, have children, stay at home as home-makers, work outside home only, or any combination of those.

Feminism insisted on women’s right to have choices. What choices women make ought to be entirely up to them. It was, and ought to remain, about opportunities and choices, not about ‘having it all’ or ‘female power only.’

Feminism is also about help, understanding and raising families together, as parents, but also as members of societies. Because nothing limits the women choices to work, or study outside home, if she chooses to, more than the absence of an adequate childcare.

Long-standing myth of a ‘super woman who can have it all and need no man’ drove many into despair. It also gave feminism undeservedly bad name, which might be why many of today’s young woman distance themselves from it.

Woman who chooses a demanding career and thrives in a competitive environment is no more feminist or lives in a more feminist world, than the one who has chosen home-making, loves decorating cakes, designing curtains and planning outlandish cocktail parties. The very fact that they both had the opportunity to freely make those choices, or any combination of them, demonstrates that they both live in a feminist world.

It is for that world that many remarkable women fought tirelessly for years. To enable every woman equal access to opportunities so that she can make her own decisions for life she wants. Not the life her ‘more feminist’, or ‘less feminist’ contemporaries approve off, but her own life. In a petticoat or a stripe suit, (or both; perhaps not in the same time -:)))!

Because being a feminist never excluded being a feminine, or having more rights and opportunities than men; it was and ought to remain about having equal rights and opportunities as men, and for that matter any human being! Personal abilities, aspirations and choices should remain the only criteria.

In conclusion, rather than worrying about whether or not display of domestic bliss on social media is killing feminism, it might be better to empower young women everywhere to feel comfortable with whatever choices they freely make. Irrespective of any popular trend.

 

 

 

 

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50 comments on “Repining Feminism

  1. on thehomefrontandbeyond
    October 14, 2012

    I so agree with you that it is all about choice — that sums the whole movement up for me–and I have been a proud member for decades — all women should be as who does not want choice
    Personally I do not understand Pinterest

    • Daniela
      October 14, 2012

      Hi,

      Thanks so much for reading and commenting. I am not big fan of Pinterest either, but it seems to be gaining popularity. I also believe that it is about having a freedom to choose. My own daughter is 18 and her generation seems to be far more comfortable making their own choices and seeing through pitfalls of popular cultures and myths then I was at her age. I am very glad of it!

      Many thanks,
      Daniela

      • on thehomefrontandbeyond
        October 14, 2012

        It is nice to see young women with their own minds–it must be so satisfying for you to see your daughter making her own choices

      • Daniela
        October 14, 2012

        Indeed it is -:)!

        Thank you,
        Kind Regards,
        Daniela

      • gita4elamats
        October 14, 2012

        Absolutely – ‘empower young women everywhere to feel comfortable with whatever choices they freely make’!
        That’s the answer!
        Peace & cheers!

      • Daniela
        October 14, 2012

        I think so too -:)!

        Many thanks!

        All the Best,
        Daniela

  2. eharris29
    October 14, 2012

    I just came across your blog; love this article – I’m going to share it :)

    • Daniela
      October 14, 2012

      Hi,

      Thank you very much and welcome to the Lantern -:)!

      Kind Regards,
      Daniela

  3. Angie Hottentots-Laurel
    October 14, 2012

    Anyone who thinks something like Pinterest is killing feminism is out of their mind! We women WANT the freedom of choice, and if we choose to be on Pinterest drooling over stainless steel islands in the middle of a kitchen or something, we have that choice.

    Things today are A MILLION times better than they were just one hundred years ago when we were forced into marriage, babies, and homemaking. We weren’t allowed to own property (including any pay we received from the job, IF we worked outside the home) or do anything that displeased a man. And people these days want to blame PINTEREST for killing feminism? No, it’s that sort of attitude that does it. *sigh*

    • Daniela
      October 14, 2012

      Hello Angie,

      Love your comment -:)))! ‘Drooling over stainless steel islands in the middle of a kitchen or something …’ priceless! Totally agree – if this is what we want it is our choice and we can have it! Just as same as ‘drooling over’ latest business woman of the year award or something! And as you said – let us not forget that not so long ago we did not have those or many other choices.

      Many thanks for reading and commenting,
      Daniela

  4. Janet Williams
    October 14, 2012

    From Pinterest to Feminisim — it’s a very interesting link for a post. Not an usual rant! But a serious social observation. I do enjoy reading it. I think you have a fantastic headline too.

    • Daniela
      October 15, 2012

      Thank you very much Janet -:)!

      I am very grateful you commented on the headline as I was so not sure about it … and I am very glad to hear that it did not come across as a rant since I am not a big fan of those!

      Many thanks,
      Daniela

  5. Janet Williams
    October 14, 2012

    I used to think that Pinterest is all about girlie things. I’ve just read that Universities and Libraries are using Pinterest to promote books. I know you’d be thrilled to know about it.

    http://www.openculture.com/2012/10/university_presses_libraries_turn_to_pinterest_to_promote_books.html

    • Daniela
      October 15, 2012

      I am indeed thrilled to hear that as I also thought that Pinterest is just a giant scrape-book!

      Thank you so much for sharing the information, I am going to check it out -:)!

      Kind Regards,
      Daniela

  6. janet
    October 14, 2012

    Saturday afternoon–shop for a summer frock (no luck, alas); Sunday evening–leaf through a beautifully illustrated Italian cook book; Monday morning, sit down to work doing something I could never have done without the education and work experience I have acquired over the years. Conflict? No way. Great post.

    • Daniela
      October 15, 2012

      Hi Janet,

      I am completely in love with your comment -:)! It provides the best, most eloquent portrait of contemporary woman’s life and why her choices to pursue any of her interests is not limiting, but enriching indeed!

      Thank you so very much!
      Daniela

  7. Mari
    October 14, 2012

    I completely agree with you! There are influences everywhere that we can either use to our advantage or our detriment. It’s all about making the choices that best suit us. Love your post!

    • Daniela
      October 15, 2012

      Hi Mari,

      Thank you very much for reading and commenting -:)! And I indeed agree with you; freedom to choose and choose freely is, in my view, the essence of feminism. Sure women, as well as men for that matter, are under influences of society in which they live, but those influences does not negate the fact they are in position to choose. It only means that the choices are plentiful, at least in developed world. Unfortunately outside that world the choices are very limited if not existent.
      Many thanks,
      Daniela

  8. makagutu
    October 14, 2012

    Another great post from the Lantern. Society has to keep changing to the point where we will no longer need to have labels such as feminist, where everyone will have equal opportunities freedom to chose whether to stay in the kitchen or to work in an industry or whatever else they chose to do!

    And there is absolutely nothing wrong if a woman so chooses to remain in the kitchen crocheting or decorating cakes as long as it is a choice she has made freely. Am all for equal opportunities to everyone.

    • Daniela
      October 15, 2012

      Hi,

      Thank you so much for visiting! Lantern always glows a bit brighter when you pass under it!

      I cannot agree with you more, after all men and women are first and foremost human beings and therefore ought to have equal opportunities!

      Kind Regards,
      Daniela

      • makagutu
        October 15, 2012

        How nice to hear that! The Lantern is always a beautiful place to visit. And every time I come it radiates warmth and a lot of wisdom.

        We all, especially the menfolk, ought to realize that women ought to have equal opportunities, it is only then that we will have a just society!

      • Daniela
        October 15, 2012

        Oh, now the Lantern is all blushed-up -:)!

        Indeed you are right; only when all members of human family are bestowed with equal rights and opportunities, there can be a just society … to think that many great thinkers have been writing about it for centuries and we are still struggling to make it reality today!

        Many thanks,
        Daniela

      • makagutu
        October 15, 2012

        I think in many places we are making strides to ensuring this comes true if not in our lifetime then in the next one.

        I can see here at home, attempts have been made to ensure there is an even playing field for both men and women and we even have laws on affirmative action in an attempt to correct the historical anomaly. How it is implemented however is another issue for another day.

        On a different issue, Lolita is such a classic. I enjoyed the book and thanks for the recommendation. I don’t know how much you like movies, I was watching the Peaceful Warrior, and if you have time you should watch it.

      • Daniela
        October 15, 2012

        I am so glad you like Lolita … just the use of language is amazing!

        Now that you mentioned attempts in your own part of the world … may I respectfully suggest (I have been thinking about it for a sometime) to show us a bit of your world! I apologize in advance if you find this suggestion in any way inappropriate!

        While I do love books, I do enjoy some good movies too, and will check the Peaceful Warrior, thank you.

        Kind Regards,
        Daniela

      • makagutu
        October 15, 2012

        No need to worry, no offense meant none taken. Maybe you could suggest what you’d like to know, that way it is easier for me to structure my response to answer all the questions you might have and as well get to know how things are this part of the blue ball!

      • Daniela
        October 15, 2012

        Phew … that is a relief! Now that we have that out of the way, what I meant was – you may consider blogging about your part of the blue ball … I for one can never ever hear or see enough of your part of the world! It must be totally mesmerizing, arresting place in all aspects! However, if this is not something you will consider, then I will appreciate any information/story/picture you care to email me when you have some time.
        Thank you,
        Daniela

      • makagutu
        October 15, 2012

        Now that makes it easy for me to do. I will try to my best to write about it when am not complaining about our politicians.
        Whenever possible, I will try to get as many photos as I can that best bring out our beautiful part of the blue ball, it surely is a beautiful place. If I haven’t mentioned it already, I think we have the best weather anywhere on the globe. We may not have snow during christmas, but we never have extremes, it’s ambient almost all year round.
        I promise to present it as I see it from time to time, I think I may just as well copy your style of being the great ambassador of NZ that I have come to know.

      • Daniela
        October 15, 2012

        Oh I knew it – of course it must be beautiful! Ambient all year around … pure bliss! And you know in my mind I always picture those beautiful tall women in richly coloured garments … and kids playing, life in its very essence!
        I am very grateful to you for so graciously responding to suggestion.
        Many thanks,
        Daniela

      • makagutu
        October 15, 2012

        If only I knew how to blush, I’ll be blushing now. But reading this makes me smile end to end as my friends usually say.
        I don’t want to blow my own trumpet, but then who would? I’ll just go ahead and lay it in the open eh, I’m one easy person. Where I know there is no malice, I will be more than positive in my response.

      • gita4elamats
        October 15, 2012

        LOVELY!

      • Daniela
        October 16, 2012

        Thank you very much -:)!

        Daniela

  9. Janet Williams
    October 14, 2012

    I love this piece so much that I’ve put a link on my sidebar. Daniela, a good post can be a challenging one. This piece is definitely one.

    • Daniela
      October 15, 2012

      Dear Janet,

      Thank you SO MUCH! I am indeed honoured by your comment -:)!

      Many thanks,
      Daniela

  10. Alice
    October 14, 2012

    Feminism celebrates the diversity of women.

    • Daniela
      October 15, 2012

      Indeed it does, or at least this is what I always thought -:)!

      Thank you very much for reading and commetning,

      Kind Regards,
      Daniela

  11. Dor
    October 14, 2012

    Very thought provoking post Daniela! I am inclined to agree about “choices”, but also think women are often unduly influenced by propaganda like the ads that spawned superwomen who could work at work, work at home, and work some more and still present the ultimate glamorous image. I have a feeling Pinterest with it’s glossy emphasis on handcrafts and cooking may be another version of the same propaganda. Are the young women of today strong enough to withstand it?

    • Daniela
      October 15, 2012

      My dear,
      I enjoyed reading your comment very much! I am very glad you expressed your views as it is indeed true that women, as well as men, are influenced by propaganda and we are all under the constant barrage of it. As you pointed out unrealistic image of a superwomen is a prime example. And there is certainly no shortage of glossy images on Pinterest, or other social media for that matter. However, I do believe that young women of today are strong enough. And I base this belief on the fact that the very existence of those multitudes of choices (even if some are marketed more loudly than others) empowers them to not only make their choices freely but also to feel comfortable with whatever they chose. In other words if the images of glossy domestic bliss is what appeals to them and they decide to become domestic goddesses, I will respect them for that choice in the same way as if they have decided on any high-powered career. To me that has always been the very essence of feminism; giving women opportunities so they can make their own choices. Unfortunately for both; men and women, in today’s world their freedom to choose is far more limited with affordability than anything else.
      Many, many thanks for reading and commenting,
      Kind Regards,
      Daniela

  12. Melody's Perspective
    October 15, 2012

    Once again, I am not disappointed that I took the time to read your post :) !!! Always enjoy your writing even when I disagree. LOL I completely concur with you this time! Great points…

    • Daniela
      October 15, 2012

      Thank you very, very much -:)!
      What you just said really made my day! Because I highly value difference in opinions, nothing widens the views more than seeing an issue from various angels. You are always welcome to voice your disagreement freely on the Lantern, and I hope you will -:)!

      Many thanks,
      Daniela

  13. cherylsultan
    October 15, 2012

    hello, what a lovely piece of writing. I totally agree that women ought to have the choice and it is another form of suppression to be told what any specific choice should be! :)

    • Daniela
      October 16, 2012

      Hi -:)
      This is so very true, suppression come in many guises, and making women feel ‘obligated’ to take certain choices in order to ‘fit in’ with whatever trend or view, is certainly a form of suppression.

      Many thanks for reading and commenting,
      Kind Regards,
      Daniela

  14. Eclipse
    October 16, 2012

    In a way it’s sad that Feminism had to arise in the first place….every human being should have the right to choose but also take the responsibility for the consequences of their acts and choices.
    Hope your day finds you well “Down Under” Daniela :)
    Hugs and love your way

    • Daniela
      October 16, 2012

      You said it so well and it is so true indeed! We are all members of the same human family; women and men alike. On that basis alone, we ought to have some rights and opportunities and take the same responsabilities for our choices.

      Many thanks for reading and commenting,
      Hvala Puno -:)!

      Daniela

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  16. Julie Israel
    October 17, 2012

    Hi Daniela! I stopped by to let you know I have tagged you to participate in The Look Challenge—but I got sucked into your post! :) I don’t do Pinterest myself, but I do enjoy having a gander. It IS eye-candy! Just how it would supposedly put women back in the kitchen, etc., however, is beyond me…Great post!

    Back to my original purpose: the Look Challenge is a fun and creative way to show off some excerpts from your work in progress! More information about the challenge here: https://julieisrael.wordpress.com/2012/10/16/taste-test-a-novel-sampler/

    Cheers and enjoy :)

    • Daniela
      October 17, 2012

      Thank you very much Julie -:)!
      It made me very happy to know you liked the post, and post and of course I will participate -:)!

      Many thanks,
      Daniela

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  18. feminismsinimef
    October 21, 2012

    You might want to read this–http://feminismsinimef.wordpress.com/

    • Daniela
      October 21, 2012

      Thank you and I will -:)!

      All the Best,
      Daniela

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